But when it comes to making changes, we can be lured into the big titles and expectations of the grand outcome. But often, what we are aiming at is so far away from where we are that it can often feel like we are running to keep still. That is why I believe it's essential to start small and manageable. When we cannot see progress, it is way too easy to be derailed, which can further discourage us from making changes.
Instead of setting big, heavy goals, try starting with something small and manageable, like saying "yes" to more invitations that feel good to you or creating a habit of doing little stretches throughout the day, rather than deciding you will go to the gym 5 days a week when you have not been in a year. By starting small, you're more likely to stick with it, and it's more manageable to integrate it into your daily routine.
Starting small allows you to build momentum, and as you begin to see progress, it gives you the motivation and confidence to take on bigger goals.
It's also important to remember that change is a process, and it's not always linear. There will be setbacks and obstacles along the way, but by starting small, you're less likely to get discouraged and give up the moment things feel hard.
When we start small, we make it easier not to make failure mean anything about us. It just becomes part of the process. And the more we train our brain to accept that failures are an essential part of learning something new. The less energy we put into avoiding them.
When you break your big challenges up into bite-size chunks, you have way more chance of not using them as weapons against yourself. The more we behave like we are on our own team, the closer we get to making. Big dreams come true.
Be Dreams (without the hustle) is our new theme in SelfCareSchool for December.
It is plotting and planning for the year ahead without burning out.
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