when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

don't think that a lot of people realise that this is perfectionism. I think that quite a lot of people think that perfectionism is getting everything right all of the time. And I think that perfectionism is kind of the opposite. Perfectionism in a way is a cute little shop front for procrastination.

The problem is that "just trust yourself" doesn't mean anything when no one ever taught you how. And in fact, most of us were actually socialised to do completely the opposite. We were mostly taught that we should not trust ourselves and that we should defer to everybody, else because they're more important, more knowledgeable, more skillful, probably have more authority than we do. And probably the last thing that we should actually do is to trust ourselves.

noticing where someone else's thoughts about you or someone else's choices backup something that you say to yourself, which feels like an old story that you're carrying, that probably isn't very kind, that feels perhaps a little bit mean or critical.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

I use this stuff in my everyday life so that you can see how this stuff can be useful for you in your everyday life. And just to try and get your brain on side so you're not at the mercy of these thoughts that we all have going on in our heads all the time that are really busy.

I use this stuff in my everyday life so that you can see how this stuff can be useful for you in your everyday life. And just to try and get your brain on side so you're not at the mercy of these thoughts that we all have going on in our heads all the time that are really busy.

I've noticed on coaching calls is that often people's relationship with money, is the same as their relationship with time. If these things are things that you struggle with in either areas of your life, this week's episode's gonna be one for you. Quite often when I speak to people, we are talking about scarcity. There is one particular theme that they look at and it is normally time or money. And I have noticed a theme that comes up repeatedly in many of the coachin

I would just like to offer you some things that might be useful for you for those moments where you haven't managed to avoid getting into that spiral And where you notice that things are going in a direction that have not got you results that you like in the past.

But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take. And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

Following friend's journey's thoruhg pregnancy, to motherhood and beyond is an honour. The last time Amina was pregnant, we took some of my favourite maternity photographs. It was a huge celebration. Now, life moves on and with a toddler on being his brilliant self, it can be tempting to think you do not need to run through it all again.

A day in the studio exploring softness and power and blurred edges with Kieron. This is a portrait of Kieron.

"I don't wanna be a burden".  This is something that often comes up in social situations when you've got something going on for you, and you also know that lots of other people and people that you care about are also going through stuff. You'd probably quite like to share what's going on for you, or maybe just talk things through with a friend, but actually you think that you don't have the right to occupy that space.

There are many spirals of finger pointing towards other people, and people want to gimme a lot of details as to why they're having such a hard time because of what the other person's doing.

when we make a plan ahead of time, the solid rule is that you have to stick to it. Now when you come to a task in hand, your brain is always gonna give you a whole load of options as to things that are gonna feel nicer, be easier to do, all of the reasons you shouldn't do it. Wondering if maybe you should go and check social media, maybe wonder what's in the cupboard? Just go and finish off that little task over there that you meant to get on with last week and didn't get

But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take. And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

2025 seemed to whizz past in a flash. The shortest year of my life. And then I remember I spent half of it asleep. I got my 11th bout of COVID in May and began sleeping 20 to 22 hours a day. The first day I was able to stay awake the whole day without randomly falling asleep or needing a nap as somewhere mid-september. Summer mostly passed me by, but I found a rectangle of sunlight and my carpet and I lay there like a cat caught in capitalism. I typed. I read. I put on

I'm writing this on a day that the snow has been… The day filtered through greys and blues like, looking underwater. It feels like a good day to connect to winter solstice and reach out to you with warmth. I want to guide you home to yourself with offers and invitations. As the longest night crest through our lives  I decided to unpack an imaginary suitcase of wishes for you.   I wish you emails which arrive like snowballs and smash out the AI from all of our dreams. I wish y

One of the keys to being confident is being kind to ourselves and not dwelling on our mistakes or shortcomings. Which is infuriatingly more difficult than it sounds, especially when you logically know it's probably not useful to berate yourself if you're trying to learn, grow, and improve (which, if you're reading this, I guess you probably are).

Quite often one of the reasons why we end up doing absolutely everything is 'cause we want everything to be all right. We want everyone to feel fine and we don't want to cause any problems. The problem with using that as your logic is that you've completely forgotten that you are also a person and it's not fine for you, and you're not checking in with yourself or including your needs into the picture.