Why do I keep saying yes when I want to say no? This is something that most of us have probably thought and it really doesn't align with our politics. We know that no is a full sentence and shouldn't be defined or need any additions, and yet quite often most of us find ourselves saying yes when we might not actually want to. Underneath a lot of this is often giving ourselves a hard time for all of those other times where we said yes when we didn't really mean to.

I got accused of being shameless. I think it was meant to hurt. But they have no idea How hard won it is To stand in this body without shame

"How do I stop caring what people think?" Is the sneaky little title of this podcast. But I kind of lured you in with a false pretext. You don't. The goal of not caring about what anyone thinks is a trap. It's something that's hardwired into us. We're meant to care about what other people think. We're social beasts.

" Why do I feel guilty for taking time for myself?" It's something that we might have said to our friends. It's probably something that you've heard friends say to you. And there's a very clear answer. The reason why we feel guilty for taking time for ourselves is because we are taught that our value lies in our usefulness.

How many times have you found yourself saying you know what you need to get done, and it just isn't happening. Knowing and doing live in completely different parts of our brain. This is why sometimes we don't treat ourselves with the same kind of morals and ethics that we would apply to everybody else. There is probably a fair bit of you that knows that your lower back really needs to do some Pilates, but actually getting down and doing it is a completely different story.

a reason why they wouldn't try coaching or frankly sign up for another course is this thought that they have, which is, "I don't want this to be another thing that doesn't work."

tell you a few things that are true that I've learnt from recording 200 episodes of a podcast that I never thought that I was gonna make in the first place. Want to talk about what I know now that I didn't know then, what I got wrong, and what turned out to be more true than I expected.

"I would never speak to somebody else like that." And we also use it for other people, " Would you speak to a friend like that?" And that's kind of where it stops. We notice that we wouldn't speak to other people in that way, and the insinuation is if you know that you wouldn't speak to someone else like that, you'd just stop doing it. But the fact is that most of us do know, and we don't stop doing it because we don't know how, and it's that missing piece of the jigsaw that

top framing people pleasing as altruism. I know that a lot of people who consider themselves to be people pleasers do so because they think that it is being nice to other people, and they think that being a people pleaser shows how much you care about people.

My recommendation for you to be able to stop people pleasing, if this is something that you struggle with, is firstly to stop framing people pleasing as altruism. I know that a lot of people who consider themselves to be people pleasers do so because they think that it is being nice to other people, and they think that being a people pleaser shows how much you care about people.

I would say having my pictures taken was the best confidence boost ever, you realise that you are the only girl in the world!! Like Rihanna I would say that is was nervous at first, from someone with anxiety, but once you warm up and have a few giggles and a chat then you will be amazing and smash it! Don’t be worried, it was the most empowering thing i have ever done!

I want to speak to the I-don't-have-time people. It can be really easy to fall into the trap of feeling like we're not in charge of our own time when we have so much to hold, and I don't know anyone who isn't struggling with holding way more things than any one person should. We have all of the work commitments, the family commitments, our own personal health commitments, anything tech that goes wrong, we need a full tech department that takes at least a day out of our l

Watching your mates grow and bloom is such an honour. Witness the love in this family double in size was such an honour to witness and document. I hope when the kids are old enough, they can look back on these images and see some of the path to where their story began, becuase they were born in love.

maybe hustling for your worth isn't the only way that's possible. And even if it feels like it's the only way that's possible right now, if we don't stop and think creatively, we're never gonna find any other solutions. I used to be firmly committed to the idea that the only way that I could manage the system was to hustle myself into exhaustion, and I would be guessing that quite a few of you have similar thoughts irrespective of what your body's up to.

I am hosting a workshop on climate anxiety. If you're someone who reads and sees a lot of the news and just wants to switch off, and you're also someone whose heart breaks every time you can see something going on, either in another planet or in your own garden, and we can see the causes and it doesn't seem like anyone in power is making any changes whatsoever, this is gonna be a workshop that's really useful for you.

I think most of us when we talk about money, the first thing that comes to mind is lack. It's money that we owe, it's money that we wish that we had, it's money that we feel like we need in order to be able to survive. What we don't often think about is having money that sustains us. We don't often think about what it might feel like to have money in the bank.

I don't think we're really taught to comprehend is the idea that we can hold conflicting thoughts. It's something that I certainly was never taught at school. It's something that in everyday politics, possibly since Brexit and beyond, there is an idea of right or wrong, good or bad, very binary, you're either with me or you're against me.

what is the difference between a rule and a boundary, and I specifically wanted to talk about this today in regards to the way that you speak to yourself. Because most of us think that boundaries are a really good idea Apart from when it comes to setting a boundary with the person in our heads that's giving us all of the bullying. My general definition is that a boundary is something that you will do when someone else does something which you do or don't want in your life,

Watching your mates grow and bloom is such an honour. Witness the love in this family double in size was such an honour to witness and document. I hope when the kids are old enough, they can look back on these images and see some of the path to where their story began, becuase they were born in love.

Where do you believe that poverty is a personal failing? If you are around these parts and you're following my work, I'd be guessing that's not something that you think that you think. Let's zoom back for a minute. Is that something you think about yourself? Do you ever look at your personal financial situation and think, " I should have done something different or I wouldn't be here"? Do you ever look at the way life panned out and think, " I should have made some differ