I don't think we're really taught to comprehend is the idea that we can hold conflicting thoughts. It's something that I certainly was never taught at school. It's something that in everyday politics, possibly since Brexit and beyond, there is an idea of right or wrong, good or bad, very binary, you're either with me or you're against me.

what is the difference between a rule and a boundary, and I specifically wanted to talk about this today in regards to the way that you speak to yourself. Because most of us think that boundaries are a really good idea Apart from when it comes to setting a boundary with the person in our heads that's giving us all of the bullying. My general definition is that a boundary is something that you will do when someone else does something which you do or don't want in your life,

Watching your mates grow and bloom is such an honour. Witness the love in this family double in size was such an honour to witness and document. I hope when the kids are old enough, they can look back on these images and see some of the path to where their story began, becuase they were born in love.

Where do you believe that poverty is a personal failing? If you are around these parts and you're following my work, I'd be guessing that's not something that you think that you think. Let's zoom back for a minute. Is that something you think about yourself? Do you ever look at your personal financial situation and think, " I should have done something different or I wouldn't be here"? Do you ever look at the way life panned out and think, " I should have made some differ

I want to remind you that other people's reactions are down to their life experiences, their thoughts, their genetics, their socioeconomic status in that moment, whether they're hungry, their environment, a whole load of different things, as are our own thoughts Our feelings and our responses to things come from our own life experience, and I know that we know this.

Most of us want to change something in our lives because we want to feel something different. We think that having external circumstances change will change the way that we feel inside. I think everything that we do in life is 'cause we're trying to move towards something that we wanna feel or move away from something that we don't want to feel.

there's one just fixed static version and that that has some greater value than whatever you're putting out there now, and frankly, I call bullshit on that. I believe that the way that we show up in any situation could probably do with a lot less criticism than we give ourselves. You know quite often how to turn up in different situations, whether it's a work relationship, a friend relationship, in your family dynamics. There may be some relationships that you actually wan

I want to talk about shame and the far right. I want to talk about why you making the commitment to learning how to manage your emotions is gonna be essential over the next few years, as we are in such a political turbulent time. I think quite often self-care gets a bad rep as a bit of sort of navel-gazing indulgence for folk who have the time and money to be able to stare at themselves in the mirror and tell themselves that they love themselves 1,000 times.

Maybe you worked hard, maybe your kids are amazing, and possibly a pain sometimes. And maybe even you look at the people around you and think that your relationship isn't that bad, actually. Things could be a lot worse.

I think most of us have probably at least one friend within our circle who needs possibly more support than we can give, and in these wild times when so many of us are overstretched, it's important to try and work out how you can set boundaries that both protect your energy and protect the relationship.

I hear people say, "I don't think I'm very good at adulting." Underneath that is often the message, " I thought my life would look different to this." What are the markers of what would make a good adult life for you? Often what I hear coming up in coaching calls is being able to drive. Maybe it is some ideas that you have about your career or your financial goals.

I want to talk about shame and the far right. I want to talk about why you making the commitment to learning how to manage your emotions is gonna be essential over the next few years, as we are in such a political turbulent time. I think quite often self-care gets a bad rep as a bit of sort of navel-gazing indulgence for folk who have the time and money to be able to stare at themselves in the mirror and tell themselves that they love themselves 1,000 times.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

You're not meant to be sad about not having kids. You want to swallow your friends stories of how hard it is, or to have made very strong feminist choices about body autonomy. But I don't feel that.

Flutes and fun in the studio as Neigo popped in for a photoshoot before her flute workshop. I love taking creative portraits with people who bring the things which bring their passions to life.

There is a wild trick that our brain plays on us, and that is to convince us that when we loop in old thought patterns and we tell ourselves the same old story day in, day out, even when we know better that, it's some personal fault.

They fold and expand like a breath held. Like listening for a pin drop.

Letting go was the hardest thing I ever did. And I am sure it is a lesson it will still take me a lifetime to learn. But now that I see it for what it is, there is compassion mixed with freefall.

when life throws the Lifey stuff at us, that we have tools that are useful for us to be able to recognise what's going on, process it and deal with it in a way that enables us to flow through it rather than to repeat our patterns that might not have served us in the past.

don't think that a lot of people realise that this is perfectionism. I think that quite a lot of people think that perfectionism is getting everything right all of the time. And I think that perfectionism is kind of the opposite. Perfectionism in a way is a cute little shop front for procrastination.