when we make a plan ahead of time, the solid rule is that you have to stick to it. Now when you come to a task in hand, your brain is always gonna give you a whole load of options as to things that are gonna feel nicer, be easier to do, all of the reasons you shouldn't do it. Wondering if maybe you should go and check social media, maybe wonder what's in the cupboard? Just go and finish off that little task over there that you meant to get on with last week and didn't get

But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take. And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

2025 seemed to whizz past in a flash. The shortest year of my life. And then I remember I spent half of it asleep. I got my 11th bout of COVID in May and began sleeping 20 to 22 hours a day. The first day I was able to stay awake the whole day without randomly falling asleep or needing a nap as somewhere mid-september. Summer mostly passed me by, but I found a rectangle of sunlight and my carpet and I lay there like a cat caught in capitalism. I typed. I read. I put on

I'm writing this on a day that the snow has been… The day filtered through greys and blues like, looking underwater. It feels like a good day to connect to winter solstice and reach out to you with warmth. I want to guide you home to yourself with offers and invitations. As the longest night crest through our lives  I decided to unpack an imaginary suitcase of wishes for you.   I wish you emails which arrive like snowballs and smash out the AI from all of our dreams. I wish y

One of the keys to being confident is being kind to ourselves and not dwelling on our mistakes or shortcomings. Which is infuriatingly more difficult than it sounds, especially when you logically know it's probably not useful to berate yourself if you're trying to learn, grow, and improve (which, if you're reading this, I guess you probably are).

Quite often one of the reasons why we end up doing absolutely everything is 'cause we want everything to be all right. We want everyone to feel fine and we don't want to cause any problems. The problem with using that as your logic is that you've completely forgotten that you are also a person and it's not fine for you, and you're not checking in with yourself or including your needs into the picture.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Should, is never a truth. Should is never a fact. Should is never. A circumstance should is always showing you where you have stories that you're telling yourself about what you should be doing and what you feel obliged to do. This week I would like to talk to you about just checking in with yourself where you have choices.

Just because something in the past has been the best that you've ever had, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the best you're ever gonna get. And. I think most of our brains are wired to think that we can get very nostalgic and reminiscing about the best thing.

This is your wise inner sage and this is what I know about the stories you have to tell. And the wild awakenings you're ready for. And here is my advice for you.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Spam Filter for Your Brain: make space to simply be. Notice the quiet beneath the busy. Step away from your to-do list, even for a short while. You might just discover the kind of clarity, joy, and self-possession that no ticked box can ever give you.

Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

It stole the air from my lungs. The movement from my limbs. The storage for my brain. The thief.

I wanted to give to you on today's podcast is some real life situations as to where boundaries are important and why it's of benefit to you to be able to put these, "yes, I do want this in my life", and "no, I don't want that in my life". Strategies around the life that you live in.

what do I choose on purpose? What I mean by this is quite often we can get distracted by all kinds of decisions, thinking there's a right answer and a wrong answer. And actually, what I have decided, the older that I've gotten, is to ensure that the decisions that I make align with my values and align with my morals and my ethics and who I want to be in the world.

Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

Uncertainty feels a lot like danger to our brains. And we want to get out of there as soon as possible. And it's very instinctual to try and move away from this in any which way that we can. So, we think that if we just make the right choice, we'll be able to stop feeling rubbish. But often, the problem is that we're also telling ourselves that if we don't make the right choice, everything will go horribly wrong.

I really appreciated the calm presence and clarity Kathryn brings when she enters the room. It was a gorgeous afternoon filled with incredible people. This is a portrait of Kathryn.