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Showing Up for Yourself
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 141 A little question to ponder on this week. How different would your life be if you were not...


Stop People Pleasing: The Art of Boundaries and Balance
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 140 This one's for the people pleasers, the people who think that giving it all away secretly makes...


Handling Other People’s Expectations Without Losing Yourself
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 138 I've been thinking a lot about doing things for other people, and how often so many of us do...


I need them to love me
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 137 What happens when you think that you need someone else to give you something? Primarily, what...


Train Your Brain to Feel Better
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 136 This week I wanted to talk a little bit about why affirmations don't work and teach you...


Break Your Repeating Patterns
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 135 This week's podcast is a really simple little hack as to work out what's going on with you....


When Pleasing Others Means Betraying Yourself
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 134 How many times have you been worried about saying no because you're worried about what other...


The Hidden Costs of Always Putting Others First
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 133 This week's podcast is a little reminder of something that I'm sure you know, but I bet you've...


Ghosting, Growth and Gratitude
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 132 I wanted to speak a little bit this week about the painful situation that most of us have...


The Wisdom Hidden in Your Anger
I don't know many people who enjoy being angry. And yet it's a perfectly human emotion that most of us feel at some point or other. And...


Am I fatphobic?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 130 So this week we're going personal. For anyone who's been around these parts for a while, you'll...


It’s All Going to go Wrong
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 129 One of the hardest things about starting something new is the idea that it's all going to go...


How to Succeed
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 128 Many of us want to know how to succeed, and many of us think that the way to succeed is to avoid...


When Other People are Bigots
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 126 So I'm recording this the week that the election has just happened in America. And by the time...


I feel like I am wasting my time
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 126 When I'm coaching people about what they want to do with their lives and how they're spending...


A Love Letter to All That You Are
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 124 Every week on this podcast, I try and give you little tips and tricks to help you examine some...


You Can’t Hustle Your Way to Happiness
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 123 Stop for a minute. I just want you to check in where you are trying to do more things so that...


Get the Goal, Not The Grind
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 122 I think most of us, probably since the beginning of the pandemic, feel a bit burnt out by the...


The Procrastinator’s Guide to Getting Things Done
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 127 This one's for the procrastinators. If you consider yourself to be someone who really waits...


I Just Can’t Let It Go
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 121 This week I'm going to be talking about that phrase I think quite a lot of us use when we're...


I would never speak to someone else like that
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 120 A really common phrase that I hear from people is "I wouldn't speak to anybody else the way that...


Who Do You Want to be in a Relationship?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 119 One of the most common life lessons that I need to learn again and again and again, I seem to...


Transactional Friendships and Unconventional Love
What people need to do to be lovable? What do other people need to fulfil for you to make you love them?


Am I fatphobic?
how many times in a group photograph you hide behind somebody else because in your own words, "you're feeling 'a bit fat'". How many times


Relationships are not a thing
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 116 Relationships are not a thing. When I say they're not a thing, it doesn't mean that I don't...


What If I Regret It?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 115 Often we can make decisions in this fast-paced modern world that all hang on the thought of...


Everyone else has it sorted
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 113 It can be really easy to compare ourselves to other people, can't it? Even though we know...


How to Stop The Overwhelm Spiral
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 113 Overwhelm is not a thing. And what I mean by that is, it's not a puddle that you can step...


How to be Less Judgemental
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 105 One of the things that we hear quite a lot in popular pop psychology these days is to tell...


It doesn't get better
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 112 I've been thinking a lot lately about how many people I hear talking about how things have been...


How to Focus on Your Goals
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 111 I wanted to give you a very breezy three-step plan to focus on your goals. Now, this is for...


Desire, desirability and socialisation
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 110 As a photographer and as a coach, I spend quite a lot of time talking to people about...


How Deep is Your Socialisation
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 109 Sometimes when you do this work, even when you're trained in this work, there are moments where...


Shall we do it all again?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 109 A friend of mine died yesterday morning, and I've been facing a lot of changes in my personal...


I don't want to feel this way
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 107 Something that I hear quite a lot in coaching circles. And the way that I was trained in this...


They shouldn’t be doing that (and how to get your power back)
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 106 When I first started coaching, one of the first bits of information that broke my brain that I...


I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself to Other People
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 97 This week I wanted to talk a little bit about comparison. Every so often on a coaching call, I...


Managing Other People's Emotions
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 96 This week I wanted to talk about that fun issue of dealing with other people's emotions. When...


Don’t trust me (trust Tony Benn)
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 94 I want to invite you to get really suspicious of anyone who tells you that they've got the...


Is Self Sabotage Exhausting You?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 93 I wanted to pose a question about where self-sabotage might be exhausting you. You might think...


Why Am I So Frightened All the Time?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 92 This is something that I find myself telling people on coaching calls and in...


Where am I already an example of what’s possible?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 91 When I was doing my coaching training, the person who devised all the courses and curriculum used...


Someone hurt me
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 90 Something that I hear quite a lot from people, is the phrase, "They really hurt me." or "They did...


Who am I talking about?
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 89 It's one of the things I hear a lot when people tell me of a difficulty that they're trying to...


The Not Good Enough Noise
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 88 Something I hear a lot when I talk about www.SelfCareSchool.co.uk when I talk about what I do...


You don’t have too many feelings, you have too much resistance
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 87 Quite often when I'm talking to people about feeling their emotions, I have conversations with...


Intellectualising Your Emotions
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 85 Where do you try and intellectualise your emotions so that you don't have to feel them? I think...


You Can’t Bully Yourself Better
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 84 A problem that I've noticed for lots of people is that when we have an emotion that we don't...


For the “I’m not good enough” people
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 83 This podcast is for those bleaker days when it feels like everything's falling apart and you're...


I would never speak to someone else like that
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 82 How often have you heard someone say, I'd never say that to somebody else, or I'd never speak...
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