what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Should, is never a truth. Should is never a fact. Should is never. A circumstance should is always showing you where you have stories that you're telling yourself about what you should be doing and what you feel obliged to do. This week I would like to talk to you about just checking in with yourself where you have choices.

Just because something in the past has been the best that you've ever had, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the best you're ever gonna get. And. I think most of our brains are wired to think that we can get very nostalgic and reminiscing about the best thing.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Spam Filter for Your Brain: make space to simply be. Notice the quiet beneath the busy. Step away from your to-do list, even for a short while. You might just discover the kind of clarity, joy, and self-possession that no ticked box can ever give you.

Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

I wanted to give to you on today's podcast is some real life situations as to where boundaries are important and why it's of benefit to you to be able to put these, "yes, I do want this in my life", and "no, I don't want that in my life". Strategies around the life that you live in.

what do I choose on purpose? What I mean by this is quite often we can get distracted by all kinds of decisions, thinking there's a right answer and a wrong answer. And actually, what I have decided, the older that I've gotten, is to ensure that the decisions that I make align with my values and align with my morals and my ethics and who I want to be in the world.

Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

Uncertainty feels a lot like danger to our brains. And we want to get out of there as soon as possible. And it's very instinctual to try and move away from this in any which way that we can. So, we think that if we just make the right choice, we'll be able to stop feeling rubbish. But often, the problem is that we're also telling ourselves that if we don't make the right choice, everything will go horribly wrong.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 149 I know I keep banging on about body image to you in these podcasts, and there's a reason for...

This week's podcast is here to try and show you how you can move through them a little bit more quickly and try and make some use out of them, rather than just being something really awful that we have to have to endure as humans. This podcast is about how to turn negative emotions into positive outcomes.

When we're on our own personal journey of growth and transforming ourselves from endless people pleasers, we can sometimes find that other people are not quite as on board with our healing and personal generosity as we might like them to be. And sometimes it's going to hit a little bit hard. And this episode is about navigating your relationship with other people whilst prioritising your own personal growth and your own personal choices.

Most of us think about the idea of certainty as this idea that when we have a whole load of things in front of us or we have a really big decision that we need to make, we're going to know what the right thing to do is because it's going to feel right. And that is us putting the idea of our feeling of certainty or our feeling of confidence to be on an external circumstance, which is us making the right decision, and that decision making us feel good.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 145 Most of us have narratives about our bodies that we've been telling ourselves for our whole...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 143 There's a sly little sneaky thought that I think most of us fall into the trap of, even if it...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 143 One of the things that I noticed when I started getting into thoughtwork was I was worried to...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 142 One of those sound bites that I think we all hear quite often is "just be kind to yourself. Just...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 141 A little question to ponder on this week. How different would your life be if you were not...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 140 This one's for the people pleasers, the people who think that giving it all away secretly makes...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 138 I've been thinking a lot about doing things for other people, and how often so many of us do...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 137 What happens when you think that you need someone else to give you something? Primarily, what...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 136 This week I wanted to talk a little bit about why affirmations don't work and teach you...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 135 This week's podcast is a really simple little hack as to work out what's going on with you....

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 134 How many times have you been worried about saying no because you're worried about what other...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 133 This week's podcast is a little reminder of something that I'm sure you know, but I bet you've...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 132 I wanted to speak a little bit this week about the painful situation that most of us have...

I don't know many people who enjoy being angry. And yet it's a perfectly human emotion that most of us feel at some point or other. And...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 130 So this week we're going personal. For anyone who's been around these parts for a while, you'll...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 129 One of the hardest things about starting something new is the idea that it's all going to go...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 128 Many of us want to know how to succeed, and many of us think that the way to succeed is to avoid...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 126 So I'm recording this the week that the election has just happened in America. And by the time...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 126 When I'm coaching people about what they want to do with their lives and how they're spending...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 124 Every week on this podcast, I try and give you little tips and tricks to help you examine some...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 123 Stop for a minute. I just want you to check in where you are trying to do more things so that...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 122 I think most of us, probably since the beginning of the pandemic, feel a bit burnt out by the...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 127 This one's for the procrastinators. If you consider yourself to be someone who really waits...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 121 This week I'm going to be talking about that phrase I think quite a lot of us use when we're...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 120 A really common phrase that I hear from people is "I wouldn't speak to anybody else the way that...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 119 One of the most common life lessons that I need to learn again and again and again, I seem to...

What people need to do to be lovable? What do other people need to fulfil for you to make you love them?

how many times in a group photograph you hide behind somebody else because in your own words, "you're feeling 'a bit fat'". How many times

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 116 Relationships are not a thing. When I say they're not a thing, it doesn't mean that I don't...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 115 Often we can make decisions in this fast-paced modern world that all hang on the thought of...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 113 It can be really easy to compare ourselves to other people, can't it? Even though we know...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 113 Overwhelm is not a thing. And what I mean by that is, it's not a puddle that you can step...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 105 One of the things that we hear quite a lot in popular pop psychology these days is to tell...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 112 I've been thinking a lot lately about how many people I hear talking about how things have been...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 111 I wanted to give you a very breezy three-step plan to focus on your goals. Now, this is for...