"I don't wanna be a burden".  This is something that often comes up in social situations when you've got something going on for you, and you also know that lots of other people and people that you care about are also going through stuff. You'd probably quite like to share what's going on for you, or maybe just talk things through with a friend, but actually you think that you don't have the right to occupy that space.

There are many spirals of finger pointing towards other people, and people want to gimme a lot of details as to why they're having such a hard time because of what the other person's doing.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 132 I wanted to speak a little bit this week about the painful situation that most of us have probably been in at some point, where we find ourselves really looking for and craving the attention of someone who, quite frankly, isn't giving us the same kind of time, care, or respect back. There are many situations in which this can manifest. It can be in relationships, in work relationships, or with a family member who feels like they're ign

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 116 Relationships are not a thing. When I say they're not a thing, it doesn't mean that I don't...

When I get lost in other people's stories, I try to control how other people interact with me rather than how I respond to them. As soon as I can get back into that place of working out how I respond to them, I can feel like I have some direction over my own life, my own responses, and my own story.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 96 This week I wanted to talk about that fun issue of dealing with other people's emotions. When...

In my moments of ultimate sadness the story  often leads back to the headline: “No one has ever chosen me”. It punches right to my solar...

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 70 Back this week with some of what my best mate tends to call "pokey little questions" for you to...

Hoping that some particular person, at any one time, will stop doing the things they're doing so my life can be easier. Or...

If you have any sounds stuck in or unable to move forward towards your dreams or towards anything else in your life: work or with personal g

'Tis the time of year when people pleasing comes to the fore. This time of year, there is so much obligation from work, colleagues, friends,

The holiday season is often associated with overindulgence, whether in food, alcohol, or consumerism. For many people, this time of year can

In a week filled with hate and horror and fear and anger and finger pointing, it is essential that each of us look for ways out of conflict