Why do I keep saying yes when I want to say no? This is something that most of us have probably thought and it really doesn't align with our politics. We know that no is a full sentence and shouldn't be defined or need any additions, and yet quite often most of us find ourselves saying yes when we might not actually want to. Underneath a lot of this is often giving ourselves a hard time for all of those other times where we said yes when we didn't really mean to.

"How do I stop caring what people think?" Is the sneaky little title of this podcast. But I kind of lured you in with a false pretext. You don't. The goal of not caring about what anyone thinks is a trap. It's something that's hardwired into us. We're meant to care about what other people think. We're social beasts.

" Why do I feel guilty for taking time for myself?" It's something that we might have said to our friends. It's probably something that you've heard friends say to you. And there's a very clear answer. The reason why we feel guilty for taking time for ourselves is because we are taught that our value lies in our usefulness.

How many times have you found yourself saying you know what you need to get done, and it just isn't happening. Knowing and doing live in completely different parts of our brain. This is why sometimes we don't treat ourselves with the same kind of morals and ethics that we would apply to everybody else. There is probably a fair bit of you that knows that your lower back really needs to do some Pilates, but actually getting down and doing it is a completely different story.

a reason why they wouldn't try coaching or frankly sign up for another course is this thought that they have, which is, "I don't want this to be another thing that doesn't work."

tell you a few things that are true that I've learnt from recording 200 episodes of a podcast that I never thought that I was gonna make in the first place. Want to talk about what I know now that I didn't know then, what I got wrong, and what turned out to be more true than I expected.

"I would never speak to somebody else like that." And we also use it for other people, " Would you speak to a friend like that?" And that's kind of where it stops. We notice that we wouldn't speak to other people in that way, and the insinuation is if you know that you wouldn't speak to someone else like that, you'd just stop doing it. But the fact is that most of us do know, and we don't stop doing it because we don't know how, and it's that missing piece of the jigsaw that

top framing people pleasing as altruism. I know that a lot of people who consider themselves to be people pleasers do so because they think that it is being nice to other people, and they think that being a people pleaser shows how much you care about people.

My recommendation for you to be able to stop people pleasing, if this is something that you struggle with, is firstly to stop framing people pleasing as altruism. I know that a lot of people who consider themselves to be people pleasers do so because they think that it is being nice to other people, and they think that being a people pleaser shows how much you care about people.

I am hosting a workshop on climate anxiety. If you're someone who reads and sees a lot of the news and just wants to switch off, and you're also someone whose heart breaks every time you can see something going on, either in another planet or in your own garden, and we can see the causes and it doesn't seem like anyone in power is making any changes whatsoever, this is gonna be a workshop that's really useful for you.