Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing
people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.
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HeardinLondon
Aug 23, 2023
People-Pleasing: The Silent Guardian of Power Structures
a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:
HeardinLondon
Aug 18, 2023
What People Pleasing is not
What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo
HeardinLondon
Aug 16, 2023
Why Fatphobia Is Ableist (and what is wrong with that)
When you equate thinness with morality and conflate thinness with health, the result is that people who do not fit into socially acceptable
HeardinLondon
Aug 12, 2023
Letting Go of Body Anxiety: Building a Life That Requires Less Coping and more Pleasure
Creating hypercritical views of yourself is a natural result of a society which constantly reminds us that our value is our attractiveness.
HeardinLondon
Aug 11, 2023
The Emotional Rollercoaster
the emotional roller coaster gets too much when all of those high-volume emotions feel like there are too many in one place at one time.
HeardinLondon
Aug 7, 2023
How to Support People (without burnout)
for those of us who value empathy, who centre social justice and who have wide-open-hearted care for people - this can pose a problem.
HeardinLondon
Aug 5, 2023
Allowing others to lean on us without falling over…
SelfCareSchool.co.uk's Self Care Sundays Postcards: 6th August 2023
TLDR link page
HeardinLondon
Aug 5, 2023
Why You Can Achieve Your Goals and Still Feel Terrible
It's a common misconception that reaching our goals will automatically lead to happiness™️ and fulfilment. The truth is, accomplishing what
HeardinLondon
Aug 4, 2023
Why you need to stop being mean to yourself (why self-criticism is not the way to self-love)
Here's something I've noticed that we do that isn't all that useful, and that is to believe that our inner critic, your self-criticism, the
HeardinLondon
Jul 29, 2023
What is it You Want? (and why we stopped asking for our own needs)
We are taught to believe that if we don't have needs and make ourselves as small and unburdensome as possible, there is a chance we can
HeardinLondon
Jul 28, 2023
When Your Heart Cannot Stop Being Tested by Big Emotions
Is there any space in there for you to be able to just anchor onto one little thought of "this is me experiencing life"
HeardinLondon
Jul 27, 2023
You Can't Hustle Your Way to Eternal Happiness (why burnout is not the prize)
It seems like only a few years ago, the word “hustle” seemed to show dedication, resilience and strength in character. But somewhere along t
HeardinLondon
Jul 23, 2023
How to Make Space for Others
SelfCareSchool.co.uk's Self Care Sundays Postcards: 23rd July 2023
TLDR link page
HeardinLondon
Jul 22, 2023
What do you really want? (how to communicate your needs without undermining yourself)
Sometimes criticising ourselves can be a habit rather than a conscious choice, and I have found it is useful to create disruptors to pattern
HeardinLondon
Jul 21, 2023
How to stop chasing happiness
life is that it involves a full load of different emotions. There is fear, anger, disappointment, confusion, excitement, apathy, joy
HeardinLondon
Jul 18, 2023
Body Image and Mindfulness
We are told that we need to constantly monitor what we eat, how much we exercise, and how our bodies look. All of which often includes...
HeardinLondon
Jul 14, 2023
What to do when you cannot decide what to do
The reason why we make things really complicated is because we think that there's a right decision and a wrong decision.
HeardinLondon
Jul 12, 2023
When it is time to say goodbye
Saying goodbye is hard. But in the words of an author who is beloved to me, Cheryl Strayed “Sometimes you need to be willing to break...
HeardinLondon
Jul 1, 2023
How to Look After Yourself When You're Busy: Self-Care Tips for a Busy Lifestyle
It can be exhausting trying to take jigsaw together life, work, health, family and the cost of living, And this can be this underlying back
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