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@HEARDinLONDON #blog


When does your confidence disappear? And where to?
Don't try and lose yourself in the work so that you can come out the other side of it looking like you are part of the confidence solution.

HeardinLondon
Oct 6, 2023


Pst? You’re probably a bit judgemental
Someone got up and wrote “non-judgemental”, and she crossed it out and simply stated, “That’s not possible. You’re a human.”

HeardinLondon
Oct 5, 2023


Confidence is a muscle we can build
I believe it is more helpful to think of confidence as something we build over time through a series of small victories and successes. And a

HeardinLondon
Sep 29, 2023


Waiting for other people to change
Hoping that some particular person, at any one time, will stop doing the things they're doing so my life can be easier. Or...

HeardinLondon
Sep 29, 2023


The guilt-free confidence quick fix…
SelfCareSchool.co.uk's Self Care Sundays Postcards: 24th September 2023 TLDR link page SelfCareSchool's Decisions course:...

HeardinLondon
Sep 24, 2023


How to unstuck (and avoid regret)
Our emotions are sensations in our own body which are processed by our brain, and they are ours and ours alone, and they come from the thoug

HeardinLondon
Sep 22, 2023


Stand up for us: Why has it taken so long for comedians to have their #MeToo moment?
This is the end result of a society which teaches that “boys will be boys” and asks, “What was she wearing?”.

HeardinLondon
Sep 19, 2023


Strengthen Your Decision-Making: Empower Yourself to Make Confident Choices
next time a scenario presents itself to you, and you feel like you are spinning in indecision, maybe try asking yourself: If I knew I had my

HeardinLondon
Sep 16, 2023


Coaching is like cleaning: you only notice what you've missed when someone else shows up
; sometimes, when we're too close to a situation, we can't see what is under our noses or areas that need attention. This is precisely like

HeardinLondon
Sep 11, 2023


You probably have more choices than you think you do
When we make decisions from a place of survival, we are focused on keeping our heads above water and getting through the day-to-day. We may

HeardinLondon
Sep 9, 2023


Because Happiness is not Enough
if all you had was happiness, it wouldn't feel very good because you wouldn't have anything to measure it against. You would have no idea of

HeardinLondon
Sep 8, 2023


What does people pleasing look like in your life?
the reality is that you don't have to identify as a people pleaser to still be behaving in a way which does not always have your best

HeardinLondon
Sep 3, 2023


How to make decisions when you do not know the next step
find the smallest possible step that you can take, which moves you in the direction that gets you closer to your goal.

HeardinLondon
Sep 1, 2023


You know what is wrong with people pleasers?
I know when I was spending all my time people pleasing, it was never enough. I never did enough nice things. I never felt safe in being li

HeardinLondon
Aug 27, 2023


Why you need to stop should-ing all over yourself - why fear and dreams don't mix
, our journey towards self-improvement is plagued by self-judgement and old nonsense about all the times we have got it wrong in the past.

HeardinLondon
Aug 26, 2023


Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing
people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.

HeardinLondon
Aug 25, 2023


People-Pleasing: The Silent Guardian of Power Structures
a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:

HeardinLondon
Aug 23, 2023


What People Pleasing is not
What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo

HeardinLondon
Aug 18, 2023


Why Fatphobia Is Ableist (and what is wrong with that)
When you equate thinness with morality and conflate thinness with health, the result is that people who do not fit into socially acceptable

HeardinLondon
Aug 16, 2023


Letting Go of Body Anxiety: Building a Life That Requires Less Coping and more Pleasure
Creating hypercritical views of yourself is a natural result of a society which constantly reminds us that our value is our attractiveness.

HeardinLondon
Aug 12, 2023
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