The problem with reinforcing this pattern is that your brain begins to associate your needs being met with danger - because you keep attacki

Even though we know they're different concepts, I think we often conflate forgiveness with condoning, especially when we're feeling hurt.

There is a societal expectation to always be positive and suppress or ignore our negative emotions and this is often where forgiveness can

It speaks about forgiveness like it's just a switch you can flick, and forgetting in this context is like an outright request to gaslight

this is a problem because it is by being willing to make mistakes and get things wrong that we learn stuff. And if you're going to be mean

The problem with these loops is that they are exhausting, and they keep us stuck in the story long after the incident has occurred.

if you don't like how you feel, you can either place all of your well-being waiting for someone else to change and say sorry, or you can

It can be hard to move on when you feel someone has wronged you and they haven't acknowledged it or taken responsibility for their actions.