What is wrong with you?
Unconditional acceptance sounds like a radical idea which drips with fear of forbidden things like laziness and indulgence. But rather than
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HeardinLondon
- Mar 17
What does confidence look like for you?
It's hard to build confidence for ourselves when we don't have a set definition of what that means.
HeardinLondon
- Mar 14
What does emotional safety look like for you?
Most of life is not happy and peaceful. Most of my life is a complicated mix of feelings and often a lot of things simultaneously, and some
HeardinLondon
- Mar 12
Have you been tricked or trapped?
Many of us have been socialised to make ourselves as small as possible so we're not an inconvenience. How many of us have been taught that
HeardinLondon
- Mar 11
How to build confidence, one cup of tea at a time
Where do you feel you need to perform perfectionism to give you confidence?
It can feel like a tantalising lure, can’t it?
HeardinLondon
- Mar 10
A line in the sand
Have you created any New Year's resolutions that you were hoping to make a start on that you hadn't gotten around to yet? Or life took over
HeardinLondon
- Mar 9
Why body image is probably not your problem
It took a lot of work on my body image, confidence, and past to acknowledge that I was trying to manipulate my body to stop predators.
HeardinLondon
- Mar 3
Why insults hang around longer than compliments
That's why you can have people remind you how loved you are, how brilliant you are, and how wonderful you are. Left, right and centre, but a
HeardinLondon
- Mar 1
How to stop doubting yourself
I know that it held me back in so many ways. I felt like I didn't have anything of value to offer, and I've often avoided taking risks or pu
HeardinLondon
- Feb 24
How to be a body ally
How can you make your body feel more at home? What kind of things do you think someone who does feel like their body is an ally would be say
HeardinLondon
- Feb 17
Who is profiting from me feeling like this?
one of the things I found helpful when I was doing this work in regards to my body image, which is something that, as someone who's lived a
HeardinLondon
- Feb 12
I believe that self love is key to changing the world
The work you do on yourself impacts all of your relationships, and the level of compassion or criticism we show ourselves ripples out.
HeardinLondon
- Feb 9
How to heal a broken heart
We're taught and encouraged to cut people off, close our hearts, or walk away from someone. And I realised that a lot of the pain and suffer
HeardinLondon
- Feb 3
Stop viewing exercise as a weightloss tool
I thought of exercise as a tool for weight loss in many ways, and I have put a lot of time and effort into thinking about how I can change t
HeardinLondon
- Jan 31
What taking responsibility is not
The problem with reinforcing this pattern is that your brain begins to associate your needs being met with danger - because you keep attacki
HeardinLondon
- Jan 29
How to not slam doors on yourself
There is a societal expectation to always be positive and suppress or ignore our negative emotions and this is often where forgiveness can
HeardinLondon
- Jan 27
What am I making that mean?
What if we couldn't get things wrong? It’s quite a brain-breaking question, isn’t it? Because it seems so obvious and logical to us that the
HeardinLondon
- Jan 25
Why "forgive and forget" is the original toxic positivity
It speaks about forgiveness like it's just a switch you can flick, and forgetting in this context is like an outright request to gaslight
HeardinLondon
- Jan 24
Want to know the secret reason why it is important to get good at forgiving?
this is a problem because it is by being willing to make mistakes and get things wrong that we learn stuff. And if you're going to be mean
HeardinLondon
- Jan 22
What does forgiveness even mean?
The problem with these loops is that they are exhausting, and they keep us stuck in the story long after the incident has occurred.
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