the reality is that you don't have to identify as a people pleaser to still be behaving in a way which does not always have your best

find the smallest possible step that you can take, which moves you in the direction that gets you closer to your goal.

I know when I was spending all my time people pleasing, it was never enough. I never did enough nice things. I never felt safe in being li

, our journey towards self-improvement is plagued by self-judgement and old nonsense about all the times we have got it wrong in the past.

people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.

a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:

What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo

When you equate thinness with morality and conflate thinness with health, the result is that people who do not fit into socially acceptable

Creating hypercritical views of yourself is a natural result of a society which constantly reminds us that our value is our attractiveness.

the emotional roller coaster gets too much when all of those high-volume emotions feel like there are too many in one place at one time.

for those of us who value empathy, who centre social justice and who have wide-open-hearted care for people - this can pose a problem.

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It's a common misconception that reaching our goals will automatically lead to happiness™️ and fulfilment. The truth is, accomplishing what

Here's something I've noticed that we do that isn't all that useful, and that is to believe that our inner critic, your self-criticism, the

We are taught to believe that if we don't have needs and make ourselves as small and unburdensome as possible, there is a chance we can

Is there any space in there for you to be able to just anchor onto one little thought of "this is me experiencing life"

It seems like only a few years ago, the word “hustle” seemed to show dedication, resilience and strength in character. But somewhere along t

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Sometimes criticising ourselves can be a habit rather than a conscious choice, and I have found it is useful to create disruptors to pattern

life is that it involves a full load of different emotions. There is fear, anger, disappointment, confusion, excitement, apathy, joy