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@HEARDinLONDON #blog


Coaching is like cleaning: you only notice what you've missed when someone else shows up
; sometimes, when we're too close to a situation, we can't see what is under our noses or areas that need attention. This is precisely like

HeardinLondon
Sep 11, 2023


You probably have more choices than you think you do
When we make decisions from a place of survival, we are focused on keeping our heads above water and getting through the day-to-day. We may

HeardinLondon
Sep 9, 2023


Because Happiness is not Enough
if all you had was happiness, it wouldn't feel very good because you wouldn't have anything to measure it against. You would have no idea of

HeardinLondon
Sep 8, 2023


What does people pleasing look like in your life?
the reality is that you don't have to identify as a people pleaser to still be behaving in a way which does not always have your best

HeardinLondon
Sep 3, 2023


How to make decisions when you do not know the next step
find the smallest possible step that you can take, which moves you in the direction that gets you closer to your goal.

HeardinLondon
Sep 1, 2023


You know what is wrong with people pleasers?
I know when I was spending all my time people pleasing, it was never enough. I never did enough nice things. I never felt safe in being li

HeardinLondon
Aug 27, 2023


Why you need to stop should-ing all over yourself - why fear and dreams don't mix
, our journey towards self-improvement is plagued by self-judgement and old nonsense about all the times we have got it wrong in the past.

HeardinLondon
Aug 26, 2023


Hidden Consequences of People Pleasing
people pleasing that we are socialised into, which is one of the main causes of people not speaking up against oppression.

HeardinLondon
Aug 25, 2023


People-Pleasing: The Silent Guardian of Power Structures
a pervasive culture of people-pleasing, one which often silences critical voices in the face of oppression. But it's high time we consider:

HeardinLondon
Aug 23, 2023


What People Pleasing is not
What people get out of my courses is the possibility that maybe we could take some of the pressure off right now so that we're not always lo

HeardinLondon
Aug 18, 2023


Why Fatphobia Is Ableist (and what is wrong with that)
When you equate thinness with morality and conflate thinness with health, the result is that people who do not fit into socially acceptable

HeardinLondon
Aug 16, 2023


Letting Go of Body Anxiety: Building a Life That Requires Less Coping and more Pleasure
Creating hypercritical views of yourself is a natural result of a society which constantly reminds us that our value is our attractiveness.

HeardinLondon
Aug 12, 2023


The Emotional Rollercoaster
the emotional roller coaster gets too much when all of those high-volume emotions feel like there are too many in one place at one time.

HeardinLondon
Aug 11, 2023


How to Support People (without burnout)
for those of us who value empathy, who centre social justice and who have wide-open-hearted care for people - this can pose a problem.

HeardinLondon
Aug 7, 2023


Allowing others to lean on us without falling over…
SelfCareSchool.co.uk's Self Care Sundays Postcards: 6th August 2023
TLDR link page

HeardinLondon
Aug 5, 2023


Why You Can Achieve Your Goals and Still Feel Terrible
It's a common misconception that reaching our goals will automatically lead to happiness™️ and fulfilment. The truth is, accomplishing what

HeardinLondon
Aug 5, 2023


Why you need to stop being mean to yourself (why self-criticism is not the way to self-love)
Here's something I've noticed that we do that isn't all that useful, and that is to believe that our inner critic, your self-criticism, the

HeardinLondon
Aug 4, 2023


What is it You Want? (and why we stopped asking for our own needs)
We are taught to believe that if we don't have needs and make ourselves as small and unburdensome as possible, there is a chance we can

HeardinLondon
Jul 29, 2023


When Your Heart Cannot Stop Being Tested by Big Emotions
Is there any space in there for you to be able to just anchor onto one little thought of "this is me experiencing life"

HeardinLondon
Jul 28, 2023


You Can't Hustle Your Way to Eternal Happiness (why burnout is not the prize)
It seems like only a few years ago, the word “hustle” seemed to show dedication, resilience and strength in character. But somewhere along t

HeardinLondon
Jul 27, 2023
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