"I don't wanna be a burden".  This is something that often comes up in social situations when you've got something going on for you, and you also know that lots of other people and people that you care about are also going through stuff. You'd probably quite like to share what's going on for you, or maybe just talk things through with a friend, but actually you think that you don't have the right to occupy that space.

There are many spirals of finger pointing towards other people, and people want to gimme a lot of details as to why they're having such a hard time because of what the other person's doing.

when we make a plan ahead of time, the solid rule is that you have to stick to it. Now when you come to a task in hand, your brain is always gonna give you a whole load of options as to things that are gonna feel nicer, be easier to do, all of the reasons you shouldn't do it. Wondering if maybe you should go and check social media, maybe wonder what's in the cupboard? Just go and finish off that little task over there that you meant to get on with last week and didn't get

But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take. And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

Quite often one of the reasons why we end up doing absolutely everything is 'cause we want everything to be all right. We want everyone to feel fine and we don't want to cause any problems. The problem with using that as your logic is that you've completely forgotten that you are also a person and it's not fine for you, and you're not checking in with yourself or including your needs into the picture.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Should, is never a truth. Should is never a fact. Should is never. A circumstance should is always showing you where you have stories that you're telling yourself about what you should be doing and what you feel obliged to do. This week I would like to talk to you about just checking in with yourself where you have choices.

Just because something in the past has been the best that you've ever had, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the best you're ever gonna get. And. I think most of our brains are wired to think that we can get very nostalgic and reminiscing about the best thing.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

Spam Filter for Your Brain: make space to simply be. Notice the quiet beneath the busy. Step away from your to-do list, even for a short while. You might just discover the kind of clarity, joy, and self-possession that no ticked box can ever give you.

I wanted to give to you on today's podcast is some real life situations as to where boundaries are important and why it's of benefit to you to be able to put these, "yes, I do want this in my life", and "no, I don't want that in my life". Strategies around the life that you live in.

what do I choose on purpose? What I mean by this is quite often we can get distracted by all kinds of decisions, thinking there's a right answer and a wrong answer. And actually, what I have decided, the older that I've gotten, is to ensure that the decisions that I make align with my values and align with my morals and my ethics and who I want to be in the world.

Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

Uncertainty feels a lot like danger to our brains. And we want to get out of there as soon as possible. And it's very instinctual to try and move away from this in any which way that we can. So, we think that if we just make the right choice, we'll be able to stop feeling rubbish. But often, the problem is that we're also telling ourselves that if we don't make the right choice, everything will go horribly wrong.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 149 I know I keep banging on about body image to you in these podcasts, and there's a reason for...

This week's podcast is here to try and show you how you can move through them a little bit more quickly and try and make some use out of them, rather than just being something really awful that we have to have to endure as humans. This podcast is about how to turn negative emotions into positive outcomes.

When we're on our own personal journey of growth and transforming ourselves from endless people pleasers, we can sometimes find that other people are not quite as on board with our healing and personal generosity as we might like them to be. And sometimes it's going to hit a little bit hard. And this episode is about navigating your relationship with other people whilst prioritising your own personal growth and your own personal choices.

Most of us think about the idea of certainty as this idea that when we have a whole load of things in front of us or we have a really big decision that we need to make, we're going to know what the right thing to do is because it's going to feel right. And that is us putting the idea of our feeling of certainty or our feeling of confidence to be on an external circumstance, which is us making the right decision, and that decision making us feel good.

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 145 Most of us have narratives about our bodies that we've been telling ourselves for our whole...