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What to do when you cannot decide what to do

Updated: May 2

Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 33

So here's a little life hack that I absolutely love and it is how to always feel like you are making the right decision. But more importantly, it's what to do when you don't know what to do. And the straightforward cure is that you decide. Now, that might sound like an incredibly simplistic thing to say. You might want to tell me all of the reasons why all of the things that you don't know about all of the tells, all of the pros and cons as to why you're unable to make any particular decision and why it doesn't seem as straightforward as you decide.

But the reason why we make things really complicated is because we think that there's a right decision and a wrong decision. And that doesn't account for the fact that the wrong decision or the decision we don't take never actually happens. It's only ever the thing that we follow through with, and the action that we take that exists in the world. And we can choose how we feel about that.

We can choose how we think about that. We can choose how we treat ourselves when that is the decision that we make. And once we have made a decision, if we follow through with actions that are aligned with our core values, who we want to be in the world, and how we want to show up in the world, we can make sure that no matter what the outcome is, as long as we are behaving respectfully and kindly to those around us. We are behaving respectfully and kindly to ourselves; we don't actually need to get worried about what the outcome of the situation is.

Because if you know that no matter what happens, you're always going to have your own back and look after yourself, there is no decision you could make where you're going to be really mean to yourself; then it takes the pressure off. The problem is very few of us are in that situation. We talk shit to ourselves so much every day and are so mean and horrible to ourselves on a regular basis and criticise ourselves so much that the fear of doing things wrong also comes along with a huge fear of how we're going to treat ourselves if we think that we've made a mistake.

What if you could park some of that? What if you could make a clear decision that in your deciding process, in the thing that lays before you, no matter what happens, you're going to treat yourself respectfully, and you're not going to say horrible things to yourself? This is my challenge for you.

If you'd like to learn how to do that. That's what selfcareschool is for. Hopefully, you'll join us for one of the courses, and if not, maybe just set yourself a dare. What could be possible for me here if I wasn't being such a complete ass to myself? That is the game of a lifetime. I dare you to participate in, and I hope to one day see you on one of the courses. It'll be a super decision for you to make.


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