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From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: Tools for Reclaiming Everyday Joy
I use this stuff in my everyday life so that you can see how this stuff can be useful for you in your everyday life. And just to try and get your brain on side so you're not at the mercy of these thoughts that we all have going on in our heads all the time that are really busy.

HeardinLondon
3 days ago


Scary Scarcity: Money, Time, and the Stories We Tell Ourselves
I've noticed on coaching calls is that often people's relationship with money, is the same as their relationship with time.
If these things are things that you struggle with in either areas of your life, this week's episode's gonna be one for you.
Quite often when I speak to people, we are talking about scarcity. There is one particular theme that they look at and it is normally time or money.
And I have noticed a theme that comes up repeatedly in many of the coachin

HeardinLondon
Feb 12


How to Pause and Reset When You’re Spiralling
I would just like to offer you some things that might be useful for you for those moments where you haven't managed to avoid getting into that spiral And where you notice that things are going in a direction that have not got you results that you like in the past.

HeardinLondon
Feb 5


The Grief of Productivity
But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take.
And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

HeardinLondon
Jan 29


Mate, you're not a burden: Transforming the Idea of Being Too Much
"I don't wanna be a burden".
This is something that often comes up in social situations when you've got something going on for you, and you also know that lots of other people and people that you care about are also going through stuff. You'd probably quite like to share what's going on for you, or maybe just talk things through with a friend, but actually you think that you don't have the right to occupy that space.

HeardinLondon
Jan 22


Outsmarting the Just Quickly Trap: A Guide to Planning and Focus
when we make a plan ahead of time, the solid rule is that you have to stick to it.
Now when you come to a task in hand, your brain is always gonna give you a whole load of options as to things that are gonna feel nicer, be easier to do, all of the reasons you shouldn't do it. Wondering if maybe you should go and check social media, maybe wonder what's in the cupboard? Just go and finish off that little task over there that you meant to get on with last week and didn't get

HeardinLondon
Jan 8


Finding Focus: Three Essential Steps to Achieve Your Goals
But there is a really simple three-step plan that I think really will support you no matter what level or level of investment your goal will take.
And firstly, the first point is to work out why you're trying to do it. Do you want to do it because you're trying to feel something different? Do you want to do it because you're trying to get away from a feeling that you're having at the moment? Working out the emotion that you anticipate you will be able to feel when the goa

HeardinLondon
Jan 1


But I don't want to go to the party
Quite often one of the reasons why we end up doing absolutely everything is 'cause we want everything to be all right. We want everyone to feel fine and we don't want to cause any problems.
The problem with using that as your logic is that you've completely forgotten that you are also a person and it's not fine for you, and you're not checking in with yourself or including your needs into the picture.

HeardinLondon
Dec 18, 2025


Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

HeardinLondon
Dec 11, 2025


Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself
Should, is never a truth. Should is never a fact. Should is never. A circumstance should is always showing you where you have stories that you're telling yourself about what you should be doing and what you feel obliged to do.
This week I would like to talk to you about just checking in with yourself where you have choices.

HeardinLondon
Dec 4, 2025


Shrinking Yourself or Expanding Your Heart: The Dangers of Staying Nostalgic
Just because something in the past has been the best that you've ever had, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the best you're ever gonna get.
And. I think most of our brains are wired to think that we can get very nostalgic and reminiscing about the best thing.

HeardinLondon
Nov 27, 2025


Reclaiming Yourself in Every Relationship
what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

HeardinLondon
Nov 20, 2025


Why Optimism Beats Nostalgia Every Time: Expanding Your Capacity for Joy
what if nostalgia is quietly shrinking our dreams? Is it possible to honour our history without letting it cap our expectations for our future? Let's take a stroll through HiLy's thoughtful perspective and see how we can gently tip the scales towards optimism - without losing touch with what makes us, well, us.

HeardinLondon
Nov 13, 2025


Is Your To-Do List Just an Avoidance Strategy? Rethinking Busyness and Emotional Wellbeing
Spam Filter for Your Brain: make space to simply be. Notice the quiet beneath the busy. Step away from your to-do list, even for a short while. You might just discover the kind of clarity, joy, and self-possession that no ticked box can ever give you.

HeardinLondon
Nov 6, 2025


Stop Pretending You’re Not Judgmental (and what to do instead)
Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

HeardinLondon
Oct 30, 2025


Moving From Overwhelm to Empowerment: Real-Life Boundaries That Matter
I wanted to give to you on today's podcast is some real life situations as to where boundaries are important and why it's of benefit to you to be able to put these, "yes, I do want this in my life", and "no, I don't want that in my life".
Strategies around the life that you live in.

HeardinLondon
Oct 23, 2025


Choosing on Purpose: Aligning Your Decisions with Values
what do I choose on purpose? What I mean by this is quite often we can get distracted by all kinds of decisions, thinking there's a right answer and a wrong answer. And actually, what I have decided, the older that I've gotten, is to ensure that the decisions that I make align with my values and align with my morals and my ethics and who I want to be in the world.

HeardinLondon
Oct 16, 2025


Do You Always Put Yourself Last? Breaking the Habit of Self-Sacrifice
Where are we deprioritising our own needs in the hope that someone else will notice what we’re doing and give us the recognition we’re not giving ourselves?

HeardinLondon
Oct 9, 2025


Escaping the Urgency Trap: Making Decisions Without Panic
Uncertainty feels a lot like danger to our brains. And we want to get out of there as soon as possible. And it's very instinctual to try and move away from this in any which way that we can. So, we think that if we just make the right choice, we'll be able to stop feeling rubbish. But often, the problem is that we're also telling ourselves that if we don't make the right choice, everything will go horribly wrong.

HeardinLondon
Oct 2, 2025


Body Kindness: The Freedom and Power of Letting Go of Body Self-Criticism
Spam Filter For Your Brain - Episode 149 I know I keep banging on about body image to you in these podcasts, and there's a reason for...

HeardinLondon
Sep 25, 2025
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