Confidence, politics and lying to yourself
Being confident means being kind to ourselves, which is infuriatingly more difficult than it sounds. Especially when, logically, you know it
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HeardinLondon
- Apr 1
Why we don't set boundaries
The more we are able to untangle our needs from other people's reactions, the easier it becomes to get really honest with ourselves about
HeardinLondon
- Mar 24
Do you believe that confidence is just something that some people have and some people* don't have?
Do you believe that confidence is just something that some people have and some people don't have? And you don't have it?
HeardinLondon
- Mar 23
What is wrong with you?
Unconditional acceptance sounds like a radical idea which drips with fear of forbidden things like laziness and indulgence. But rather than
HeardinLondon
- Mar 17
What does confidence look like for you?
It's hard to build confidence for ourselves when we don't have a set definition of what that means.
HeardinLondon
- Mar 14
What does emotional safety look like for you?
Most of life is not happy and peaceful. Most of my life is a complicated mix of feelings and often a lot of things simultaneously, and some
HeardinLondon
- Mar 12
Have you been tricked or trapped?
Many of us have been socialised to make ourselves as small as possible so we're not an inconvenience. How many of us have been taught that
HeardinLondon
- Mar 11
How to build confidence, one cup of tea at a time
Where do you feel you need to perform perfectionism to give you confidence?
It can feel like a tantalising lure, can’t it?
HeardinLondon
- Mar 10
A line in the sand
Have you created any New Year's resolutions that you were hoping to make a start on that you hadn't gotten around to yet? Or life took over
HeardinLondon
- Mar 3
Why insults hang around longer than compliments
That's why you can have people remind you how loved you are, how brilliant you are, and how wonderful you are. Left, right and centre, but a
HeardinLondon
- Mar 1
How to stop self-doubt drowning out everything else
I know that it held me back in so many ways. I felt like I didn't have anything of value to offer, and I've often avoided taking risks or pu
HeardinLondon
- Feb 24
How to be a body ally
How can you make your body feel more at home? What kind of things do you think someone who does feel like their body is an ally would be say
HeardinLondon
- Feb 17
Who is profiting from me feeling like this? Why comparison is a joy-thief
one of the things I found helpful when I was doing this work in regards to my body image, which is something that, as someone who's lived a
HeardinLondon
- Feb 12
I believe that self love is key to changing the world
The work you do on yourself impacts all of your relationships, and the level of compassion or criticism we show ourselves ripples out.
HeardinLondon
- Feb 9
How to heal a broken heart
We're taught and encouraged to cut people off, close our hearts, or walk away from someone. And I realised that a lot of the pain and suffer
HeardinLondon
- Feb 5
The immorality of food
It also reinforces the harmful notion that our bodies are something to be controlled and manipulated rather than celebrated and respected.
HeardinLondon
- Feb 3
Stop viewing exercise as a weightloss tool
I thought of exercise as a tool for weight loss in many ways, and I have put a lot of time and effort into thinking about how I can change t
HeardinLondon
- Jan 31
What taking responsibility is not
The problem with reinforcing this pattern is that your brain begins to associate your needs being met with danger - because you keep attacki
HeardinLondon
- Jan 30
Forgiving and remembering
Even though we know they're different concepts, I think we often conflate forgiveness with condoning, especially when we're feeling hurt.
HeardinLondon
- Jan 29
How to not slam doors on yourself
There is a societal expectation to always be positive and suppress or ignore our negative emotions and this is often where forgiveness can
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